There’s some great feedback / commentary on her twitter account. In particular, see the conversation around this tweet (which resonates on a personal level), and this one (labels are guidelines).

I think that lots of things in life are fluid and changeable, especially those related to yourself, your identity, and your personality. I’m not the same person I was last year, let alone five or ten years ago. [Insert real smart book-learning sentence here about never being able to walk in the same river twice]. Even when an aspect of yourself is close to your core, it doesn’t mean it can’t or shouldn’t change. It’s the combination of all the twisting and turning and mishing and mashing that makes you you.

People can sometimes be too swift to apply a label and treat it as a binary state (myself included). Labels should be more like guidelines, and used in a positive way. I want to add “mostly” to the front of any label that I apply to myself.

I think that‘s what I want to say.

• 2 shots Tequila
• 1 shot Cointreau
• 1 shot freshly squeezed* lime juice
• short squeeze of agave syrup**

Shake until frosty***. Serve in salt rimmed glass****.

* – I find this bit important. You get little chunky bits that add texture.
** – I was about to take a break because our agave syrup was running out, but a saviour has appeared in the form of Komati, down the road from us. Agave nectar, they haz it.
*** – I make two at once and shake with three ice cubes.
**** – I rub the rim with a spare lime half, for the stickings of the salts, and have started plonking a single ice cube into the glass, to give it an extra chill.

Is the sun over the yardarm yet?

I’m enjoying it a lot even though I’m finding it quite hard. It’s partially that structured dancing is new to me, and partly that it’s a lot about feet. We were at The Reserve in town for a birthday hootenanny on Friday, and Parfles and I were throwing shapes in the church of dance (hat tip), big style. It made me realise that I “dance” (ahem) with my hands a lot, and just kind of… shuffle my feet about a bit. Unless I’m jumping around like a loon.

I’m determined to persevere, though, and get good at it. I’m getting there. Slowly, but I’m getting there. There’s a social hang around and dance thingy after each lesson, but our social calendar has been a bit hectic recently and we’ve had to dance and run (last week we shot out to a birthday thingy for jimbob at HQ (after stopping to change clothes). I am pleased to announce that HQ’s food is still excellent.). This week, we stay. Exciting!

Quick aside: the venue is great. It’s at the Roodehek Restaurant (somewhere I’m still thinking I should go for Salty Cracker.)

Pics are up on Flickr: Dagmara’s Wedding

Mostly veggie, mostly un-lemon-y.

I have moved from

http://www.delicious.com/maxbarners

to

http://pinboard.in/u:maxbarners

for my bookmarking needs.

That is all.

Good thing I never leave home without my chainsaw.

Foursquare is the more widely known and popular, but I find it very messy. Cluttered and full of junk all over the place. It’s also got a bit of a business bent: getting special offers when you check-in at places, which puts me off slightly.

Gowalla I found much more appealing, especially the recent reboot. The focus on stories is especially appealing: I like short form diary writing, and doing this socially, adding pictures, getting virtual goodies along the way too, felt good. Unfortunately, a lot of the appeal is in the social nature of it, and I didn’t get very connected. Gowalla sort of incorporates 4sq stuff (short version: it connects completely, but that functionality is currently partially broken), so that’s an additional bonus.

The biggest issue for me, though, and why I’m not going to persevere with either of them is the actual physical reality of it. I don’t like getting out my phone and fiddling with it while I’m out with friends. To get the most out of the check-in/story experience, you really need to spend a few minutes prodding it, maybe a few more minutes taking pictures. I don’t want to be that kind of person: the one who’s playing with their phone all the time. I also don’t want to be the person snapping pictures of everything all the time: taking pictures of an event rather than experiencing it.

[Phone-fiddling is a personal bugbear of mine. It's not that I find it rude exactly, or that I don't believe people can multi-task, it's more a matter of priorities and taking time to unplug. I spend most of my day online, and sometimes a fair portion of the evening. So when I choose to socialise, and unplug for a while, I like to make the most of that. I don't want to be checking Twitter, Facebook, RSS feeds, and so on. It's more important to me to interact with the people I'm with. Okay, rant over!]

(This post brought to you by my continued push to Do More, including write)